Glimpses of Healing and Hope
September 12, 2016
By: Jane Bishop Halteman
I enjoy reading Terry Hershey’s Sabbath Moment blog when it surfaces on my Facebook feed. Like Glimpses of Healing and Hope, Hershey's posts offer stories “to inspire and feed the soul.” His September 4 post describes two young children who enthusiastically craft a sand castle, only to have it washed away by rising tides.
After some tears, the youngsters surprise a bystander by grabbing each other’s hands and running across the sand to build another castle. “We all have high tides, and waves that take out sand castles in our lives (be they dreams or plans or expectations or even hope). Observing the children, the bystander realizes that those who endure in life do so with a hand to hold. The children found solace, renewal, and confidence in the sanctuary of connection—a place where they knew they were safe. And embraced.”
Hershey suggests that “as long as I see only the misfortune and inconvenience, the flattened sand castle defines me. I buy this label, this new version of reality.” On the flip side of the same coin, he proclaims this good news: “These children were not undone by scarcity (or depletion or sadness). They went about their day as if sufficiency was their reality.”
How might we participate in allowing sufficiency to become our reality even when depletion and sadness seem to threaten our very existence? How can we become part of the support network for others when their sand castles are destroyed at high tide?
I attended a meeting in eastern PA last week where I observed women, in particular, taking responsibility to become part of a support network for other women. Women Empowering Women with MEDA (Mennonite Economic Development Association) provides an opportunity for women to learn about issues facing women in developing countries, according to a MEDA press release from March 2016 when the new group’s chapters in Souderton and Lancaster, PA, were launched.
“Women in developing countries often face social and economic adversities beyond our comprehension, and yet have an amazing drive to rise above these barriers when given the opportunity to do so. After a recent all-women’s trip to a MEDA project in Ethiopia, I noticed a phenomenal connection between the Ethiopian women and those on our trip. We shared a strong bond and there was mutual respect and understanding. The women on the trip have a vision to share these meaningful connections with others,” says Ruth Leaman, regional director of resource development at MEDA and coordinator of the two new chapters. Women Empowering Women with MEDA offers members opportunity to engage with projects in countries around the world, including Ghana, Ethiopia, Ukraine, Nicaragua, and Kenya.
Last week’s meeting featured client stories from farmers in Ukraine, “where years of neglect under the former Soviet regime left the agricultural sector struggling.” Working with small farmers to improve their incomes, MEDA’s Ukraine Horticulture Development Project helped “farmers learn modern technologies, increase productivity, and deliver premium quality greenhouse crops, berries, and table grapes to markets in which they have a competitive advantage.” The project established lead-farmer networks, developed to bridge the gap between small farmers and agribusinesses. To build small farmer competiveness, lead farmers also mentored small farmers toward improved methods of production.
Their beautiful handwork reminds us of our sisters in the Ukraine
The event I attended closed with a prayer, during which the leader suggested we rise from our seats to form a circle. We were encouraged to join hands and then to lock arms at the wrist and finally at the elbow. Each instruction brought us closer together and strengthened the physical bond, offering one another connection and embrace in the same way MEDA’s projects in the Ukraine support women farmers, and another graphic reminder of sand castles and high tides. We also were reminded that MEDA's return to the Ukraine to help women farmers as agents of hope represents “a heart-warming circling back to a land that holds warm memories” in spite of persecution of those among us with names like Dyck, Janzen, and Yost.
Parker Palmer’s photo of a latticework of supportive hands in this blog post at On Being’s website is a powerful visual of connection and embrace. The post discusses the spiritual odd couple of laughter and silence. “On the surface, the two may seem to have little in common, but their kinship is soul-deep. Both make us vulnerable by penetrating our illusions and taking us closer to reality, grounding, renewing, and redeeming us as they do.” Read this article for more on how to “bear witness, so no one need suffer alone,” another good example of offering connection and embrace as the sand castles of our lives become unmoored by rising tides.
Hershey’s Sabbath Moment blog concluded with this mention of Mother Teresa’s recent canonization, honoring her for her dedication to the poorest of the poor. Pope Francis “recognized holiness in a woman who felt so abandoned by God that she was unable to pray and was convinced, despite her ever-present smile, that she was experiencing the tortures of hell.
“And yet, she went about her days as if sufficiency was her reality, even in the midst of flattened sand castles. Mother Teresa not only shared the material poverty of the poor but the spiritual poverty of those who feel unloved, unwanted, uncared for. Today St. Teresa of Calcutta reminds us that the people who do make it (the people who endure and carry on), are those with a hand to hold.”
Whose hand are you holding? Who is holding yours?Add a comment
September 5, 2016
By: Jane Bishop Halteman
Fall's great beauty comes with decline
“August slows, and puts on her turn signal. Autumn lies just ahead. The signs are all around us,” says Cindy Crosby in her August 30 entry called Prairie Signs and Wonders at her Tuesdays in the Tallgrass blogpost.
Her post mentions noticing Monarchs fueling with nectar this time of year for their upcoming flights to Mexico. In my own yard and garden, I see summer flowers on the wane as late season dahlias prepare to bloom, tomato greenery dies down, a few leaves begin their flutter to the ground, tall grasses start to unveil their fall plumes, and temperatures and humidity plunge if only temporarily or overnight. Eventually blue skies and puffy, white clouds will appear to show off blazing leaves in preparation for autumn's fiery finale. (See above photo collage.)
Parker Palmer references autumn as “a season of great beauty, but it is also a season of decline: the days grow shorter, the light is suffused, and summer’s abundance decays toward winter’s death. Faced with this inevitable winter, what does nature do in autumn? She scatters the seeds that will bring new growth in the spring–and she scatters them with amazing abandon,” Palmer suggests in an essay entitled Seasons written for The John E. Fetzer Institute in Kalamazoo.
Palmer goes on to explain: “In retrospect, I can see in my own life what I could not see at the time–how the job I lost helped me find work I needed to do, how the ‘road closed’ sign turned me toward terrain I needed to travel, how losses that felt irredeemable forced me to discern meanings I needed to know. On the surface it seemed that life was lessening, but silently and lavishly the seeds of new life were always being sown.
“This hopeful notion that living is hidden within dying is surely enhanced by the visual glories of autumn. What artist would ever have painted a season of dying with such a vivid palette if nature had not done it first? Does death possess a beauty that we–who fear death, who find it ugly and obscene–cannot see? How shall we understand autumn’s testimony that death and elegance go hand in hand?” Parker asks.
Joyce Rupp is another favorite author who makes compelling comparisons between the seasons of the year and her own journey. “As an adult I have struggled in the past with autumn’s arrival. I have fought the reminders of death and letting go that autumn tends to bring because I did not want summer to end. I have clutched onto summer’s light and fullness with a tenacious grasp and complained mightily when the end of the season came. Autumn was a huge interruption and brought with it the challenge to let go of the playfulness and leisure of warm, sunny days,” she observes in The Circle of Life, a book she co-wrote with Macrina Wiederkehr.
As we prepare ourselves for the work of autumn, let us remember Palmer’s conclusions about the season that will descend upon us soon: “Autumn constantly reminds me that my daily dyings are necessary precursors to new life. If I try to ‘make’ a life that defies the diminishments of autumn, the life I end up with will be artificial, at best, and utterly colorless as well. But when I yield to the endless interplay of living and dying, dying and living, the life I am given will be real and colorful, fruitful and whole.”
When foliage thins, a new barrenness takes its place; tree limbs unseen during summer’s abundance become beautifully apparent. Much as we love the leaves of spring and summer, bare branches also have truths to share. As squirrels begin to scamper into gathering mode and geese get ready to fly south, what connections do you see and feel in your own life that remind you of the changes autumn brings? Where do you recognize dying off preceding new life? How have painful goodbyes in your own life led to new hellos?
If you are looking for a way to pause and breathe each day as autumn falls upon us this month, consider these photo prompts for mindfulness from Gabrielle Treanor. You can play catch-up for the first few days or just begin today or tomorrow or halfway into the month!Add a comment
August 29, 2016
by: Jane Bishop Halteman
Flawed stones, beautiful in their imperfection; together they create the stunning Saint Mary's labyrinth and participate in their own way in the slow work of God
The image of “small paper lanterns” from the song God of the Bible captured my imagination immediately during Sunday morning worship this week. Not that I hadn’t sung that line many times before, both at Kern Road and in my former congregation, but this time I found the phrase riveting, couched as it was in words about changing world order.
These are the words to verse 4: “Not by your finger, not by your anger will our world order change in a day, but by your people, fearless and faithful, small paper lanterns, lighting the way.” (Text by Shirley Erena Murray. Copyright 1996 Hope Publishing Company, Carol Stream, IL)
Imagine my surprise then, when Pastor Janice repeated those words first thing in her sermon…and my further delight, later in the service, when Deanna called attention to the paper lantern image one more time as she led us in our morning congregational prayer.
Janice told a moving story during her sermon about a local pastor friend who was born and raised in Syracuse, NY, in what the friend considered a well-integrated neighborhood. This summer Janice’s friend unexpectedly met another pastor raised in the same neighborhood, whose parents were the first African Americans to move there some 20 years before Janice’s friend’s family arrived.
The neighborhood struggled with integration issues upon arrival of the African American family, but, until these two women met this summer, it seemed the African American pastor did not realize the fruits of her parents’ struggles. She was one of the fortunate ones who learned, long after the fact, that changes did, indeed, take place in the neighborhood, though at a steep price for her parents and probably other families like hers.
“God does God’s work in God’s slow and steady way…it’s out of our hands,” Janice suggested. “Many times the ones who plant the seeds may never know how God has made those seeds grow,” she added.
My mind traveled back to the image of the small paper lanterns and some of the people who have lit the way for me. Unfortunately, the male pastors in the congregation of my growing up years did not inspire me with their warnings about skirt and hair lengths, but I do recall Sally, the reassuring teacher who welcomed all of us children to our first year of Sunday school. Cora kept us well supplied with intriguing library books, and Marilyn sang beautifully…they were all inspirations in their own way, each contributing something to my young, impressionable life. Aunt Beth, editor of the Words of Cheer, published during my childhood by Herald Press, made me want to be a writer.
I walked the Saint Mary’s labyrinth (pictured above) with two high school friends this past week as we embraced 70 and pondered the future for what’s next. I didn’t think a whole lot then about how I might engage with the youth of our congregation, but, after Pastor Lane’s formation hour challenge on Sunday, I’m considering more seriously how I might be a small paper lantern for younger generations, even as they shine their lights back at me.
As an active grandparent to four children 11 and under, I have engaged with the younger set in lots of ways…taking them to ballet, soccer, choir, drama class, swimming, story time, gymnastics; for chest Xrays and other medical or dental appointments, to haircuts, book fairs, museums, libraries. We’ve done breakfast, lunch, and dinner, visited countless ice cream parlors and coffee shops. We know the aisles of Target and Costco and Meijer quite well, and have made applesauce and pancakes together, picked blueberries, ridden carousels, recycled aluminum cans, stopped for the family farm share, visited pumpkin and Christmas tree farms, and attempted simple sewing projects.
So how might all that experience translate into involvement with younger generations at Kern Road? I’m still sorting that out and am eager to hear how other KRMCers find ways to interact with our youth. Our formation hour conversation reminded me that about 20 years ago, long before I was thinking about grandchildren, I began relating to two 10-year-olds in my former congregation (without benefit of a church program).
New pastors had just arrived in town with three children who knew none of us, so I took it upon myself to help build a friendship between that family’s 10-year-old daughter and another 10-year-old girl in the congregation. I remember visiting museums and playing together in the snow at a nearby elementary school, and realize now that those two young women helped prepare me to become an involved grandmother…at that stage of my life, they were two of my small paper lanterns!
Who has been a small paper lantern for you? For whom have you functioned in that capacity? As we seek to become lanterns for each other and notice the light of other lanterns shining in our midst, “may we trust in the slow and steady work of God among us,” Janice reminded us in the closing words of her sermon.
Another reason I have loved the image of paper lanterns has much to do with this Grand Rapids Art Prize entry back in 2012!Add a comment
August 22, 2016
By: Jane Bishop Halteman
The gathered community worships together, eats together…stands in the gap with one another
These three paragraphs from the Fetzer Institute’s August 1 blog post caught my attention this week:
“It’s easy to react to each day’s news and events (personal and public) with raw emotion, adding to waves of anger, grief, and even calls for retribution well before the facts are in.
“If we mean to cultivate nonviolence and peace, we need to practice another way, says author Parker Palmer. Instead of responding with corrosive cynicism or irrelevant idealism, Palmer says we need to stand in the ‘tragic gap’ between these two poles.
“The insight at the heart of nonviolence is that we live in a tragic gap—a gap between the way things are and the way we know they might be,” he writes in A Hidden Wholeness. “It is a gap that never has been and never will be closed. If we want to live nonviolent lives, we must learn to stand in the tragic gap, faithfully holding the tension between reality and possibility.”
Yesterday’s annual lawn service at Kern Road brought to mind the way congregational members stand in the gap for each other as evidenced by their willingness to participate in community. Andrew shared about his grandfather’s influence in his life, about how his grandfather led nightly devotionals when Andrew visited as a boy, about how his grandfather’s praying the Lord’s Prayer to conclude his meditation left a strong impression that survives for Andrew to this day.
Cathy talked about family transitions as job changes are under way, children return to school, the oldest plans a wedding, and mom starts a seminary course. “I need help,” she said as she spoke of ways she looks to God and the community for assistance.
Mo said he has seen God at work in his life as he chose a marriage partner, as he experienced a keen sense of knowing when it was time to move on while making job changes over the years, as he shared his faith with others during his lifetime.
Being willing to become vulnerable to the community by telling our stories is one way to stand in the gap for each other, helping to fend off both “corrosive cynicism” and “irrelevant idealism” on the personal front, perhaps even the public front.
Meyer May house, Grand Rapids, MI
This last week I experienced two rather far-fetched versions of standing in the gap as my meanderings took me to the movie entitled Florence Foster Jenkins (see one review here for an introduction to the story line), as well as the Frank Lloyd Wright house in Grand Rapids built for Meyer May in 1908-09.
A retelling of a very strange true story, the film illustrates the great lengths to which Florence’s husband and her piano accompanist were willing to go in the interest of letting her dream big dreams and eventually enabling her to bring those dreams to fruition, in spite of the ridicule of many. Not the kind of standing in the gap most of us are likely to experience, but nonetheless, an odd example of the measures some folks are willing to take for the other.
Steelcase, the local business which purchased the Meyer May house in 1985 to bring it back to life for clients and the public, spared no expense in restoring the home to a 1910 version of itself. Now open to the public for nearly 30 years, the house offers an exceptional example of perseverance and exactitude, a kind of public standing in the gap for historical purposes so that those of us interested in the work of Frank Lloyd Wright might get to experience this style of architecture for ourselves. (See videos explaining the renovation here.)
According to the Meyer May house website, “After months of interviews and intensive study of reference materials, work began to restore the interior and exterior to its original design. The restoration took two years. The work included removal of a 1922 addition, rebuilding the roof to restore its cantilevered design, replacing all the plaster ceilings, restoring a Niedecken mural under six layers of paint, cleaning and repairing more than 100 art glass windows and skylights, completely recreating the interior with original pieces and exacting reproductions, and recreating the landscape to its 1909 design." To be sure, this was no small project!
What is your unique, personal way of standing in the gap for yourself, for others? How have others stood in the gap for you? What challenges do you face that may require a new way of standing in the gap for yourself or others? As a gap-stander, how do you help hold the tension between reality and possibility as referenced by Parker Palmer, either in personal or public settings?
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August 15, 2016
by: Jane Bishop Halteman
The more I read about the effects this election year is having on many people, even little people (as evidenced by this article), the more I realize the importance of finding ways to nurture ourselves so that we can be effective nurturers of others.
Celeste Snowber Schroeder in her book, In the Womb of God, says this: “Living in the womb of God, caressed by the touch of the Beloved, I am made whole and regain the strength to meet the next moment. As I learn to be present to God in the midst of the dailyness and clutter of my life, I begin to see that I live in the womb of God. God encompasses me as a mother and father caress their unborn child. The child cannot see her parents caressing her, but senses she is loved and known.”
No one taught me to be self-nurturing back in the day; in fact, left to my own devices I might have extrapolated from what I heard preached around me that self-care was another term for self-indulgence. However, in The Woman’s Comfort Book, Jennifer Louden makes it clear that self-care is anything but self-indulgent. “Self-care is not selfish or self-indulgent. We cannot nurture others from a dry well. We need to take care of our own needs first, then we can give from our surplus, our abundance,” Louden says.
That makes sense…it’s what we are told on airplanes every time a flight attendant reviews safety regulations before take-off. Don’t try to affix your child’s oxygen mask until your own is in place!
To use Schroeder’s terminology, then, how do we find ways to nestle into the womb of God? No two of us likely will take the identical route as we seek that nourishment from the Divine. The photography and journaling that nurture me might not offer you the same solace, though I hope you find some sense of renewal in the sunset and flowers and food photos posted here. I discovered many helpful suggestions about nurturing at The Spirituality and Practice website and recommend you peruse the site at your leisure to determine what most nurtures you, but here are a few suggestions that caught my attention.
These excerpts from the book Whole Detox by Deanna Minich reveal some ways to detox one’s spirit in terms of which activities to choose and which to avoid. Choose quality time in nature, she says, and peaceful contemplation and reflection as well as rest and rejuvenation. Her advice is to avoid sleep disruptions and overeating or, on the other hand, forgetting to eat.
In a collection edited by Tami Simon called Darkness Before Dawn, Robert Augustus Masters addresses the importance of crying as personal nurture. “Crying ought not to be something we outgrow. Deeply felt tears can be profoundly healing—at any age. When we weep, we open the heart, ease the belly, quiet the mind, soften the body. It is a loosening up and deep cleansing, a washing-out not just of psychic debris but also—at least to some degree—of biochemical waste. The composition of emotional tears is different than that of tears that result from cutting onions or from an irritant in our eyes. Emotionally shed tears contain more toxins (much like sweat does)—thereby helping cleanse the body—but also contain leucine enkephalin, an opiate. So such tears both cleanse and ease us.”
Flora Slossen Wuellner, one of my favorite authors during my early years of adventuring into contemplative spirituality, offers this advice about praying for herself and others as she opens to the “inner flowing.”
If you are looking for more on the spiritual practice of nurturing, check out this Spirituality and Practice website feature on films on that subject.
Here’s a delightful story about a bride who was walked down the aisle by the man who received her father’s heart. Read it, and be alert to nourishing occasions which come into your life this week, bringing renewal and healing so that you can help facilitate the same in the lives of others.
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August 8, 2016
by: Jane Bishop Halteman
Seeing this Unity Garden in South Bend last week made my heart sing!
Is it possible that the difficult election cycle in which we find ourselves is taking a toll on Americans in unexpected ways? I find drivers a bit more aggressive, people crankier with each other in public places, and, in general, I observe more intolerance with one another than usual.
Perhaps I wouldn’t be noticing if we hadn’t just returned from two weeks in Europe, where we found strangers quite respectful of each other and of us as we traveled many modes of over-crowded public transportation and visited sites brimming with hoards of people, where it would have been easy to get in each other’s way and lose patience with the masses.
I’ve been intent this last week on noticing the happy things, the encouraging things that go on around me to help dispel the destructive chatter everywhere. When the world gets nasty, how can we fill our eyes and ears with good things to counteract the overload of negativity?
How do we neutralize the violence and pain we are sure to absorb when we watch the news, interact with social media, read the local newspaper? How do we digest well what we see and hear, at least to stay in the know and offer care where possible, but at the same time pay attention to our own wellbeing?
I’m still thinking about silence as a remedy, if you read last week’s post, but also intrigued this week with curiosity about how to balance with good input the assault from the fire hose of bewildering information just waiting to drown us with pummeling force.
I am grateful that my Facebook friends continue to offer positive posts. Mary shared this version of Hallelujah, and Rose’s “The Earth Has Lungs. Watch them Breathe” cheered me up as I thought of the amazing ways in which our world operates without our knowing or understanding.
I’m taking time during August to participate in Susannah Conway’s August Break 2016, in which she offers a daily photo prompt and urges participants to post on Instagram and a private Facebook page. She suggests that her followers “pause, look around you, and shoot what you see. Live inside each moment. Pay attention to what’s there. If it’s the summer where you are, it’s a lovely way to be present to the moments that will be gone before you know it. If it’s the winter, what better way to liven up your day than with a creative project to play with?”
And I have favorite poets and authors to whom I turn when the world looks bleak. For me it’s Jan Richardson or Parker Palmer or Krista Tippett or Mary Oliver or David Whyte. You probably have your own list of favorites whose writings cheer you when you need cheering. David Whyte’s post on memory this week suggested this upbeat thought: “Memory is an invitation to the source of our life, to a fuller participation in the now, to a future about to happen, but ultimately to a frontier identity that holds them all at once. Memory makes the now fully inhabitable.”
John O’Donohue stirs great excitement in me with his comments in The Question Holds the Lantern. “Once you start to awaken, no one can ever claim you again for the old patterns. Now you realize how precious your time here is. You are no longer willing to squander your essence on undertakings that do not nourish your true self; your patience grows thin with tired talk and dead language. You see through the rosters of expectation which promise you safety and the confirmation of your outer identity. Now you are impatient for growth, willing to put yourself in the way of change. You want your work to become an expression of your gift. You want your relationship to voyage beyond the pallid frontiers to where the danger of transformation dwells. You want your God to be wild and to call you to where your destiny awaits.”
Yes, surely, I don’t have to wear myself out further with election news. My high school and college classmates are turning 70 this year and I’ve enjoyed watching how they are embracing the decade. The four grandchildren continue to advance in years, and it’s fun to watch them preparing for the start of a new school year as a sixth grader, third graders, and three-year-old pre-schooler. I was mesmerized last week by Zion UCC's Unity Garden (in photo above) offering free food for the taking and excited to consider volunteering some marketing assistance at Just Goods.
Finally, I unearthed Jan Richardson’s A Blessing Called Sanctuary, a personal gift for me which showed itself just in time to use in words for worship Sunday at Kern Road. Truly sacred, inspired thoughts about turning the personal sanctuaries we have found on the journey into sanctuaries for others. Yes, that, too, will help cure what’s wrong with this election year.
As I was wrapping up this entry Sunday night, former suburban Chicago neighbor Sue posted a Chicago Tribune article by Mary Schmich that closed with this sentiment: “This country has a great ability to self-correct. It veers off course then lumbers forward toward something better. As hard as it is to believe on days when the news is dark with the terrible things people do and say, we live in a world that is safer and fairer than the one I was born into.”
We can only hope Mary is right; in the meantime, let’s try making it a spiritual discipline this week to fill our minds with the good, the positive, the encouraging, the helpful, the useful, the informative. And pass those things on to folks around us…
August 1, 2016
by: Jane Bishop Halteman
Quiet in the city at Clapton Pond
One of Parker J. Palmer’s comments in a Facebook post this last week caught my attention: “In this noisy season of political frenzy, it’s hard to remember ‘the sound of silence.’ But it’s exactly at such times that we need the grounding and wisdom that can come from keeping still for a while.”
This link will take you to Palmer’s post, which includes Pablo Neruda’s poem about silence, And now we will count to twelve…, which Palmer says he reads several times a day “to help me reclaim my right mind and my true heart.”
In spite of the noisiness of our lives, silence can be found in nooks and crannies if we are willing to make time and space to notice. We discovered the pleasant pond in the photo above in London just this side of a very busy street where automobiles, trucks, double-decker buses, police cars, and ambulances zigzagged their way through the congestion—anything but a silent setting, but we managed, for a moment, to secure a measure of quiet in the beauty of that slightly sheltered space named Clapton Pond.
Wherever we went on our two-week family excursion to The Netherlands, Germany, and England, crowds of people and horrendous traffic assaulted our senses as we shared highways and canals, trams, buses, planes and trains (including the Chunnel), railroad stations, airports, and the underground with the locals and many vacationers like ourselves who also were visiting museums, cathedrals, and other historical points of interest, along with eating and shopping. The night sounds of parties and a nearby restaurant continued past our bedtime in Amsterdam. Noises of different varieties broke the silence in Bocholtz, where soft neighborhood voices carried in the rural night air and roosters woke us during pre-dawn hours.
Silence has been called the way into the deep well of inner wisdom. In the words of Thomas Merton, “Silence has many dimensions. It can be a regression and an escape, a loss of self, or it can be presence, awareness, unification, self-discovery. Negative silence blurs and confuses our identity, and we lapse into daydreams or diffuse anxieties. Positive silence pulls us together and makes us realize who we are, who we might be, and the distance between these two.”
Gunilla Norris, in her book Sharing Silence, Meditation Practice and Mindful Living, suggests that “when we make a place for silence, we make room for ourselves. This is simple. And it is radical. A room set apart for silence becomes a sanctuary—a place for breath, for refreshment, for challenge, and for healing.
“Silent spaces invite us to go to the inner room—the room inside ourselves. By making room for silence, we resist the forces of the world which tell us to live an advertised life of surface appearances, instead of a discovered life—a life lived in contact with our senses, our feelings, our deepest thoughts and values,” Norris observes.
Frederic and Mary Ann Brussat have gathered a host of helpful ways to practice silence (and other spiritual disciplines) at their Spirituality and Practice website. They say this about silence: “Our world contrasts sharply with the inner world of silence. We are bombarded daily with the noise of crowded residences, workplaces, and entertainment sites. The clamorous voices of the media are always trying to get our attention. We live amidst the seemingly relentless roar of our machines, our tools, and our toys.
“Very few places today are soundproof. The norm is noisy verging on chaotic. The Tower of Babel still stands in our midst, a grim reminder that our various expressions can divide and even conquer us. When this world feels overwhelming and chaos seems to be getting the best of us, silence is a powerful antidote. This practice increases our capacity for contemplation. It enables us to focus our attention on deep matters of the heart. It is where we can commune with things greater than the cacophony all around us,” the Brussats say.
“How can you find this inner quietude, tranquility, and calm? You must make room for it—literally. Find a space of physical silence where you can sit quietly, away from distracting demands, voices, and sounds. Go there every day. It is the gateway to your interior silence.” Where might you find a place to inhabit the silence in the midst of chaos? Perhaps a space in your own home, your office, a park you pass every day, your back yard?
I have long loved a story from Sue Monk Kidd’s When the Heart Waits about sitting in silence with an injured bird, so you can imagine my delight at finding that passage in video format among the Brussats’ resources on silence. Check out this link to hear the reading and decide for yourself what value you may find as you reach toward the Divine by incorporating silence into our noisy world. Borrowing phrases from Neruda's poem, what will the earth teach us when we allow silence to interrupt the noise in our lives?
This unexpected rooftop garden provided a mini space of silence
in the midst of a Hackney neighborhood crowd in Greater London
July 25, 2016
by: Jane Bishop Halteman
Photos from left to right and top to bottom: London rooftops, back yard fox, pond reflections; London Airbnb, Bocholtz sun-dappling, Cologne cathedral floor tile;
Bocholtz morning light with horses, Cologne cathedral interior, Bocholtz barn
As I was peering out our Airbnb bedroom window on arrival at our London site Thursday afternoon, the first thing that caught my attention was a fox sleeping in the back lawn. To my unacquainted eyes, the creature at first appeared doggish, but I couldn't imagine that the homeowners would have left their dog behind in our care, especially during a very hot week on a continent unprepared for such high temperatures.
Eventually we came to realize the animal was a fox and were surprised to discover she did not seem the least bit perturbed by our presence. When we clattered around in the nearby kitchen, in fact, she looked at us lazily and returned to slumber, blending in seamlessly with our environs...she, seemingly out of her typical habitat, and we, for sure, out of ours.
Between naps she sauntered through a hole in the yard’s fence to the next door yard and who knows where beyond. The next evening, on an outing to a nearby cricket field with the grandkids and our daughter-in-law, we met a neighbor woman walking four dogs. She mentioned that the foxes would likely show up at dusk, slinking around the edges of the field and blending in and out of the neighborhood effortlessly, making themselves quite at home in their nearby den, a mom and a dad and several kits who had apparently settled into the city over the years, though definitely not their natural habitat.
I found myself looking for the fox frequently...would she return for another break from the daily routine? How did she manage to snooze lazily so close to us clambering around inside a house with which we were unfamiliar, stirring through kitchen drawers to find utensils and pots and pans, hoping to unearth the spice drawer and fresh recycling and garbage bags? In spite of us, the creature seemed to come and go as she pleased with no thought to us or concern that our being so close just inside might affect her.
After a great stay in Amsterdam (which you may have read about in last week’s post), we moved on to Bocholtz, a quiet town in the Dutch province of Limburg, not far from the borders of Germany and Belgium. Our converted ancient barn, just adjacent to our Airbnb host’s home, offered spaces of dappled outdoor sunlight inviting lots of photo opportunities. An hour’s jaunt took us to the great Roman Catholic cathedral in Cologne, where work on the Gothic edifice began in 1248 and took more than 600 years to complete. Steeped in European history and savoring the beauty of the massive structure and its contents, we found it tough to juxtapose our cultured days with the nightly antics taking place back home in Cleveland. (Reading Nancy’s blog post helped keep me calm and centered.)
We traveled the Chunnel train from Brussels to St. Pancras, Central London railway station, before eagerly exploring our seven-level London rowhouse. With only six to eight stairs between floors, the living room was situated at street level, with four levels of bedrooms above, and a kitchen level and basement below. We had heard from Meg the morning of their arrival in London that her back had seized up after a day in Dublin, but we were not prepared for the fact that she would make it to her room and not leave it for more than two days except for painful trips to the bathroom. Unexpectedly, she was thrown into the physically and emotionally uncomfortable position of severe pain in a country not her own. Bit by bit she and we realized she would need to give up attending the Oxford conference she had come for, the sightseeing excursions with family to the London Eye and Tower of London. Worst of all, she began to fear it would be impossible to return home with her family because the pain might preclude travel.
In the midst of it all, though, she managed to secure a doctor willing to make house calls at no charge on Saturday. “Of course you don’t pay. This is the National Health Service and you’re our guest,” he told her and then he apologized for the fact that 100 pills were going to cost £8.50. The next day she contacted a sympathetic soul at British Airways who agreed, pending a doctor's signature, to move her family from a London to Dublin flight Wednesday coupled with a Dublin/Charlotte/O'Hare flight to a London/O'Hare flight Thursday, giving her an extra day to recover and result in just one cab and one direct flight, rather than three flights, a train, a bus, and a cab, she told her Facebook friends.
Political shenanigans and physical crises aside, I looked to the fox for her ability to remain at peace in the sunny back yard even with the turmoil of 10 of us barging into her space unexpectedly. The encouraging words of friends and family kept us afloat so far from home...I especially appreciated the energy worker and other wise women in my life who lifted us above what seemed like impending doom and these words from one, who said, "Stay well, Mother Jane." I was grateful for Matt's navigational skills throughout the trip, Susan's gifts with food preparation and management, Jeff's attention to keeping the kids entertained, Jim's ability to mend the broken stuff...all the pieces that offered a semblance of normalcy even when life wasn't. And I loved Matt's stab at flying higher than the storm with these photoshopped efforts to include Meg and me in the trip to the Tower of London!
Where have you seen the hand of the Divine in the unexpected storms of life?
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